Oh my beautiful spawn, you are growing up so fast. Too fast if you ask me, but your dad and I, we can’t stop time. We can’t roll back the clock and keep you little forever. Someday (sooner rather than later) you will
pack up your shit and move out spread your wings and leave this nest and it is our job to make sure you are ready. Prepared. Functioning.
We can tell by your eye-rolls, door slams, and frequent foot stomps that you think that your life under this roof really sucks at times. Like really, really bad. Like oh. mah. GAWD, I don’t even know how you live here bad. I know you aren’t old enough to totally understand our methods, nor do you really care at this point, but believe us when we say that we really kinda-sorta know what we are doing when it comes to raising you. How do we know this? Because we were you once.
Let me try to help you understand that in fact we are NOT total assholes-I mean I might be, but your dad not so much.
That we are NOT–contrary to popular (aka, your) belief–the meanest parents on the planet.
That in fact we do the things we do because we love you so much it hurts.
That this parenting gig is a long-term, full-time job that requires (and demands) long-term results.
Let me start with allowance. Believe it or not, you get one. It may not be cash money like you want, but you get a roof over your head, food in your belly, clothes on your body. We know it pisses you off and you hate it, but you are a part of this family just like the rest of us and around here everyone contributes. No one gets a free ride. I tell my friends that ask if I give an allowance that in lieu of cash money, we allow you to live here. While I know that sounds brutal and unfair, I was not put on this planet to be your maid. Your dad and I are your parents and it is our job to teach you how to be actual grown-ups. Sitting on your ass playing video games all day while screaming for snacks isn’t going to cut it. I have chores, your dad has chores, you have chores. Someday you will thank me.
We know you really want that iPod touch. Earn it. Get up off your little behind and get to work. We give you plenty of opportunities to go above and beyond and earn a little cash. Do it. Save it. Buy it yourself. You’ll respect it more and see that a little bit of work isn’t going to kill you.
The Tooth Fairy doesn’t bring you a twenty or a fifty? Tough shit. What have you done to earn that kind of money? You put your dirty fingers in your mouth and wiggled, completely grossing your mother out in the process. You accomplished something that every single human on the planet has also done. <golf clap> Until your teeth are made of solid gold you will take your four quarters and be happy with it. The Tooth Fairy, along with Santa and the Easter Bunny, are meant to add a touch of fun and whimsy to your childhood NOT to cater to your every desire. Just enjoy it while it lasts.
That project is just too hard? I tell you what, I will sit by you and give you some suggestions. You want me to do it for you? Not gonna happen. I already went to school. I busted my ass and passed all on my own (with some major prodding from my own parents). Now it’s your turn. You will survive, not without a few tears and frustrations, but you will do it. I’ll be right here encouraging you, supporting you, loving you.
Your report card came and you earned all A’s? Congratulations, we are SO PROUD of you!!!!! What’s that? How much are we going to pay you? Hmmmm….here’s a dinner around the family table. Oh look! I even made cookies! If you would like financial compensation for doing what you are required to do, get a job. Here you get paid in praise and hugs. Dinners and cookies. Enjoy your successes because you EARNED them, not because you are getting PAID for them.
I understand that your life is hard, but you know what else is hard? Parenting is hard. Being an adult is hard. Having responsibility is hard. Seeing your friends have stuff handed to them for doing nothing is hard. Working is hard. Life is just really fucking hard. That’s the entire point of all of this. You can’t get by in life just waiting for someone to hand you what you want. What you think you need. I mean you can I suppose, but you won’t be doing it here.
I know this whole being a kid thing is mind-blowing. That you think you already know everything there is to know about everything. That competing with your friends is a tough gig. That you are required to have moments filled with angst and anger toward your parents. That damn it, at times your life just sucks rotten eggs. Been there. Done that.
I also want you to know that we are right here, your dad and I. While we may not shower you with the things you want, we will always be here to give you the things that you need. To support you and love you unconditionally. To reward you appropriately when we see fit. To correct you when you need it and to have your back when it seems like no one else does. We are here to dry your tears when someone hurts you or something goes wrong, and to celebrate with you when everything goes right. To show you right from wrong and to correct you when you screw up–and I promise that you will.
No matter how much you think we suck.
No matter how hard you stomp your feet or roll your eyes at us.
No matter how loud you yell and no matter how many times you tell us that you hate us.
You are stuck with us.
We will always be here.
Because damn it, we are your parents and we love you. Hard.